1. Basic human rights versus special-access demands
Many detransitioned women say they still support the ordinary civil rights every adult should have—such as holding a job, renting a flat, or voting—yet draw a clear line once “rights” are stretched to mean “a free pass into female-only space.” One woman explains the difference this way: “If you mean the right to have a job… not be discriminated against in the workplace… of course I support that for any human being. If you mean… destroying female-based shelters… endangering female criminals by putting a male person… in women’s prisons, then no, I don’t support it.” – HeavenlyMelody91 source [citation:186243e7-7171-4256-8f12-e4f030236bf5]
From their viewpoint, safeguarding, medicine, and fair competition are areas where biological sex matters; asking women to ignore that reality feels, in their words, like “forcing a belief system” rather than protecting a genuine human right.

2. Safety, consent, and the need for sex-segregated services
Because most assaults are committed by males, the women interviewed say shelters, hospital wards, and sports locker rooms were created to give females a space where they can relax, sleep, and undress without male eyes or bodies present. They describe feeling betrayed when anyone with a penis can enter simply by saying “I identify as a woman.” One former resident recalls her anger at seeing “men who identify as trans… in women’s shelters for rape victims or domestic-abuse survivors,” adding that “women’s rights are taken away” when that happens – MoonKitten7 source [citation:2dcf9ae1-06e7-4fc3-ba9a-5ad27412dbe2]
They stress that a single assault or even the constant fear of one is enough to destroy the very purpose of these refuges, and they see the erasure of that concern as a form of “trans rape culture.”

3. Equity through third spaces instead of forced inclusion
Rather than banning transition or denying anyone help, most contributors propose building separate, single-user, or trans-specific facilities—unisex toilets, a transgender sports division, dedicated shelter wards—so that trans people can access services without overriding female boundaries. One woman urges males to “have sympathy towards women for once… and compromise by advocating for single-room unisex bathrooms, social services specifically for trans-identified people… separate wards in mental-health institutions, prisons, school dormitories, domestic-violence shelters. This would be an example of equity.” – [deleted] source [citation:3b3154df-8bc0-4c56-bcc5-ce6df1e9dccb]
They see this as a practical, kind solution: everyone gets privacy and safety without asking either side to pretend biology does not exist.

4. Redefining “woman” erases the legal category women fought for
Several writers warn that once the word woman is re-defined to mean “anyone who says they feel like one,” the sex-based protections written into law become meaningless. A detrans man notes that “uttering the magic words ‘I identify as a woman’ suddenly gives free access” to spaces that previously required female bodies – bradx220 source [citation:388de6fa-00fc-40dd-b1da-59da82f12e00]
From their standpoint, this shift turns a protected class back into an open category and, in their phrase, “takes the rights of girls and women” away.

Conclusion
The stories above come from people who once believed they were meant to live as the opposite sex and later changed their minds. Their message is not a rejection of anyone’s humanity; it is a plea to keep two ideas in balance: every person deserves dignity at work, at school, and in daily life, yet women and girls also need places where male bodies are simply not present. They suggest third spaces, clear rules, and honest language as non-medical ways to respect both realities. If you are questioning your own relationship with gender, take heart: you can express yourself, dress, and behave in any way that feels true—without pretending that sex itself has disappeared. Understanding this distinction can ease dysphoria, protect women’s boundaries, and leave everyone freer to be themselves.